Let’s start with the sweet science
My last post used a quote from boxing, and this post uses some lessons a friend of mine taught me about boxing. The reason for this is that, in my head, there are a number of parallels between sports and guitar playing, the biggest one being that both require a seemingly endless amount of training and preparation to be able to pull of a performance at the best of your ability in front of an audience.
As I write this, UFC champion “Rowdy” Ronda Rousey just took her 12 straight win to remain undefeated with a knock out in 34 seconds. This means that the sum total of her last three fights is under a minute. Her detractors say this doesn’t mean anything. They want to see her go the distance in a fight. I disagree with them. The fact that she can finish those fights so quickly says EVERYTHING about how much work and preparation she put into those fights.
I read Ronda’s biography and the thing that resonated with me (other than the endless grueling training – I thought back to a LOT of 12-hour days at Berklee while reading this) is how much she got up and kept going when she was knocked down in her life. When she was back in the states after getting a bronze in the Olympics for judo with no gainful employment she tended bar, worked at an animal shelter and worked as a gym receptionist while living in a car, and managed to get her head in the game and turn herself around from that situation to become the most dominant athlete (male or female IMHO) on the planet. (You have to have the mental and the physical skills to get to the top of your game.)
Back to the boxing
A good friend of mine (who just happens to be an unbelievable guitar player, musician, songwriter and guitar builder ) Chris Fitzpatrick, recently “celebrated” a milestone birthday in an unconventional way when he signed up to raise money by fighting in a Haymakers For Hope event. (Haymakers for Hope is an organization that sponsors fights to raise money for cancer research).
It is impossible to understand the physical and mental demands that are required to walk into (and out of) a boxing match if you’ve never stepped foot in a ring. Some people take a 1/2 hour boxing cardio class and think, “that’s not so hard – I could do 3 minute rounds” not understanding that it’s a whole other thing to try to throw punches when there’s another person there determined to knock you out. If you haven’t prepped, even if you can avoid getting hit – you’re likely not going to make it out of the first round.
(Some language NSFW. This excerpt is from the film Heckler, but I’d also recommend Raging Boll which shows more footage from this fight.)
My friend Fitz trained for months to get ready for his fight which required intensive diet and training, getting up at ungodly early hours and pushing his body to the absolute limit. This was more remarkable given that this fight is something sane people 20-30 years younger might do on a dare. He won the fight which you can see here.
While he was training, we talked a lot about the similarities between learning how to fight and learning how to play guitar. After the fight, there’s a whole post-fight period of introspection – kind of like a post gig introspection, and during that I asked him what lessons he learned. The lessons he learned are a great guide for guitar playing, or any other venture you want to engage in.
With that – here’s a short sweet list of lessons courtesy of Chris Fitzpatrick. Remember that the difference between thinking something and knowing something is that knowledge is experiential – so I hope you’ll learn these hard fought lessons of knowledge easier than Fitz had to learn them! (Also, make sure to check out his Strange County Drifters project and keep an eye out for some forthcoming FnH guitars!)
- Don’t be outworked.
- Practice for perfection, understanding that perfection is a just a goal, not to be used as a judgement of success or failure.
- Push through your limits, you will be amazed at what you discover about yourself and what you can do.
- Your comfort zone is a place to rest, not a place to live.
- There will always be someone better, Always. learn from them.
- Ego is the most dangerous barrier to achievement.
- Your mind is so incredibly powerful that it can override your physical being. We all live this everyday and don’t even realize it. Use it.
- No one cares except for you. Don’t bother trying to make others care. Care for yourself.
- Breathe and relax.
All of these apply to everything, but my discipline is music and guitar.
To which I would add the famous Samurai maxim, “Seven times down – Eight times up.”
There are real limits in life. If you haven’t ever done a bench press (and never done a similar physical activity) you’re not going to pop a heavy weight off your chest on a bench your first time- but that doesn’t mean that you won’t ever be able to do it.
You don’t know what you can’t do today until you try.
You don’t know what you can’t do tomorrow when you put the work in today.
You don’t know what you can’t do a year from now when you put the work in everyday.
A limit you have today doesn’t necessarily have to be a life long limit if it’s something you can change with consistent, focused work.
I hope this helps! Thanks again to Chris Fitzpatrick for sharing!